Feelings follow behaviour

I have never thought of phrasing it that way. I have always thought of how your behaviour inspires feelings whether they be good or bad.

Everyday comes with the realisation of how "small" the world is becoming. Clients are now acquainted with family and friends and the line defining business and social gatherings are becoming a blur.

You can't be liked by everyone even when you try to please everyone all the time. I reckon that by having a value system and staying true to them is the best way to live.

That way, when people describe you in their conversation, the conversation hopefully inspires feelings of trust and respect whether the person likes you or not.

Event planning motion

I am always amazed by the amount of planning, nerves, misunderstanding, agreeing and vigilance that goes with organising an event.

An event with the motion as follows:
at the beginning no-one is interested,
doing the work on your own with virtually no support,
creating a successful promotion,
having the event fully booked and then have people clamour for access.

Added to this dealing with rude people and management and placating both successfully is also a big learning curve.

Then, when the successful event is all said and done, it somehow becomes management's cherry to show off. This is the part where you get told that you can't take all the credit, which in all fairness is right as it takes a team of people to execute any event. It would, however, be nice to have the 70% to 30 % interest split from start to finish vs 70% no interest at the beginning and 70% I take the credit at the end.

Practicing a little vs talking alot

This zen proverb by Muso Kokushi is relevant in everyday life.

Our trust levels in someone are determined by what they said, did they follow up, did they get it done or implement the idea (very important) and the outcome won't matter too much.

Talking a lot is not a crime if the content is appropriate.

Committing action to the words will win great respect and make your reputation open opportune doors.

Women and shop

Ok ok I concede. Women and men do do things differently.

From my various discussions, with both men and women, going to the shop for bread and milk means exactly that for men. They will go into the shop to get bread and milk and walk out of the shop with the bread and milk.

Women on the other hand go to the shop with good intentions. When they see the bread and milk then they think of "what will go on the bread?". At that point in time they add the cheese to basket. The next set of questions follow such as "what about the veggie factor?" and "how do I make it look yummy?" So into the basket goes the lettuce and tomatoes which magically turned into a trolley.

So, if you don't want to eat dry bread with milk thank the women for thinking ahead.

And yes, I concede that women are much smarter than their male counterparts.

Wedding cake-in-the-middle-of the road

Note to the reader: This passage is written on the basis of a good and kind world.

Firstly, a big thank you to the person responsible for being so considerate. I appreciated the fact that the cake was in tact and tasted, surprisingly, very good. Not mention that it was a beautiful design.

I gather that the cake was not left their intentionally but whatever circumstances brought it there...it was a product of the universe.

If you don't believe me on how good the cake tasted ask the kids at the orphanage what they thought. The impromptu party was a highlight to some of the kids who have never ever seen a cake or celebrated a party in their entire lives.

Nothing happens without a reason as the saying goes.

Where do I find my say in the matter?

I find it very annoying when I get asked to manage a project. Especially when all the details have already been discussed, promises have been made, perceptions "confirmed" and all of this without me present.

When I step in with the fantastic idea (which I converted to paper and gant charts) and explain why the idea can't work or make certain adjustments because it won't be able to be implemented from a logistical point of view...what do I get?

Aggravation.

I get plain old aggravation when I actually have the clients best interest at heart.

In this case managing a pre-owned project equals annoyance.

It is a poor idea to lie to yourself

Even so how do you stop? I am a bit undecided on this one.

While I agree that lying to yourself or anyone is not very moral, where do you draw the line between a lie and a state of mind?

As an example when you are in a bad mood and you choose to stay very grumpy then you will remain in a bad mood for a longer period of time. In order to change your mood you have to change your state of mind in order to feel happy etc

Then you have the real bad experiences like when someone close to you passes away. After knowing the person for 10 or odd years, it is not just a matter of telling yourself that the person is dead and moving on.

Based on personal experience, it's OK to "lie to yourself" and imagine that the person is still around. For a while this might actually be the best coping mechanism. Added to that, time has a way of bringing you to the reality of the present.

As a coping mechanism this can actually help you deal with the situation better versus blanking out your emotion and having to deal with it in 20 years from now.